Asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is a big decision, both for you and her. This decision should never be one-sided, based on expectations and so on.
So the main question is, how long should you wait to propose? There’s no fixed formula for that, but the following will ought to provide you with some guidance to check yourself whether you and your partner are in the right path.
- She’s going to say “yes”!
You should never propose as a solution of something or referring to it as a quick fix. Signs can be very obvious, but sometimes can be subtle too. She maybe dropped hints by letting you know the existence of a proposal organizer, lets you know which ring she likes, or perhaps her friends asking you when you’ll propose and so on.
- You’ve discussed your future together.
When both of you are discussing about future vacations and it involves you two together, then that’s called planning a future together. You just couldn’t see a future without your partner in it. So make sure you talk about marriage together, making sure both of you are on the same page.
- You have an interdependent relationship.
In which two people, both strong individuals are involved with each other without sacrificing themselves or compromising their values. When you feel like either you or your partner is very dependent with one another, then each can be pretty clingy from time to time.
Adjustments and compromises do take place, but in a healthy portion where it does not make you loose a sense of yourself.
- Your friends and families are supportive.
Sometimes we tend to see our partner as flawless, where we all know we ain’t perfect. Our families and friends can be the judge of that. If your friend for instance feels like you’re becoming more emotionally unstable since you started dating your partner, then that’s a red flag! However, if your family or friends sees you becoming more motivated, cheerful and so on since you’ve been together, then that’s a green light all the way.
- You let go of your ego.
When you make decisions by considering your partner’s point of view, opinion, wellbeing, and so on, then you’re starting to let go of your ego. Once you’ve mastered the art of compromise (not in a way that tortures you), being a good listener, then you’re in it for the long haul.
Overall, you’ll have to see how you and your partner deal with problems together. A certain situation can trigger who you really are, in which would not normally applies in day-to-day dating scenes. So, it all goes back to the range of experiences you’ve gone through together, rather than the amount of time that should become your benchmark.
